SETTING LIMITS
How to set a boundary.
A boundary makes your limit clear. Start with a specific situation and words you can follow through on.
Decide what you need.
Before you start the conversation, name the limit for yourself. What can you agree to, and what needs to change? A concrete limit is easier to explain than a general feeling that something is too much.
TRY SAYING THIS“I can help with this tomorrow, but I can’t stay late today.”
Say it plainly.
Use a short first-person statement. Explain your availability or the behavior you want to change, then make a specific request. You can be considerate and still be clear about your answer.
TRY SAYING THIS“I need to finish my point before we move on. Please let me speak.”
Repeat the limit if you need to.
If the other person pushes back, you can acknowledge their concern and repeat your answer. You do not have to add a new explanation every time. Choose a next step you control, such as continuing the conversation later or offering a different time.
TRY SAYING THIS“I understand it’s urgent. I’m still not available tonight. We can talk in the morning.”